The rules of tipping, according to Emily Post’s great-great granddaughter

“Nightcap’s” Jon Sarlin asks CNN’s Peter Valdes-Dapena if used cars will keep getting cheaper and if more EV price cuts are coming. Plus, Lizzie Post, the great-great granddaughter of etiquette icon Emily Post, shares when to tip and when to skip. To get the day’s business headlines sent directly to your inbox, sign up for the Nightcap newsletter.

00:00 – Welcome to "Nightcap"
00:14 – Used car bubble bursts
04:11 – Tipping point for the tipping debate

39 comments

  1. Rule number1: mandate businesses to pay their employees a livable base wage like every other job so they don’t wait, beg, and rely on a possible tip. Food prices are getting out of hand in addition to service fees, credit cards fees, technology fees, taxes, delivery fees … then tips. Whoever wants to tip, good for them; pay as much as you want. But it’s become almost mandatory to tip and they start you with 18% ?? The audacity… The owners should pay their employees fairly.

    1. NO, COOPERATE SCUMBAG AMERICA WANTS THE POOR PUBLIC TO PICK UP THE TABS FOR PAYING THERE EMPLOYEES,SO THEY DONT HAVE TO AND THE C.E.Os CAN GET THERE MULTI MILLION DOLLAR BONUSES AT THE END OF THE YEAR

    2. @Mahealani Hawaii I knew servers in a sports arena who were working the high-end suites where they demand superior service and attention. These servers would make $500 or more per event in tips alone; about 4 times what they were being paid by the company.

    3. @Mister Hat my pro tip. Negotiate, I know it’s nice common, but what can you loos? I did. that in Switzerland, I made a rice price deal. I ask several dentist. It’s works, just try. Some will be shocked and say no, but other will give a fixed price.

    4. @matt lessley if you don’t know the circumstances how can you tell this like it would be so easy. It’s not that all of them chooses this work.

  2. It’s harder to refuse to tip with the person standing there watching you. It’s intimidating. I still consider it my money. My decision. 10% is doable but restaurants want 20 to 25%!!!! I’m tired of being expected to tip for handing me my coffee or my order of French fries. I save my money to give a bigger tip to the people who actually do something to help me.

    1. I agree.. I don’t want to be forced to tip when I’m getting coffee to go. It’s a cafe..making and serving coffee is their job. If my server was cordial and did their job well, I tip..but it shouldn’t be mandatory

  3. Tipping is cringe and we seriously need to get rid of it, and just have employers pay their employees a living wage.

    Until then I’ll still tip where I can. I’m not gonna withhold money from the working class under the vague, hope that one day things will change.

  4. Remember they’ve been automatically adding the tips at the you are ready to pay the bill, and if you don’t pay attention and ready you ended up tipping double.
    Is just crazy they’ve been getting away with it.

    1. I’ve seen job listing from employers, read you’ll earn minimum wage $15.00. But with hourly tipping of $5.00. You’ll be earning $ 20.00 an hour.

      That’s a cop out from employers. Giving them something that’s not guaranteed. On bad weather, overnight shifts, or the shortest shifts seeing no customers.

    2. Yeah, I’m a Tipper and definitely Don’t Mind at all. However, It’s Not My responsibility to Pay Employees whom are Suppose to Get Paid to Serve Me.. It’s getting kinda weird and sometimes I can Only Pay for my Items or Meal etc. Although, Again, I don’t mind and Do give etc. I am just seeing Entitlement & Demand of it tho or Dirty Looks.. Please Give that Dirty Look to your Boss.. I’m Kind but Don’t mistake that kindness…

  5. You should never top at any any food service that isn’t a sit down restaurant such the cashiers at these other big chain [panera bread as an example] that get paid a lot more. That is just ridiculous

  6. Real etiquette would be the restaurant or others charging a real price, not an artificially lower one and then expect (or auto add) a “tip” or “gratuity” which is not the case. No server gets a bad tip and think they deserved so little; they just think the tipper is cheap. Tipping should be rare and then it will have meaning and be related to etiquette instead of price fraud and expecting free extra money.

  7. I thought we gave tips because waitresses make less than minimum wage. I get asked for money everywhere. It’s getting crazy!

  8. I’m Korean and there is no tip culture in here. But, recently I’ve had chances going on a trip to the US about 2month. I remember that I’m so surprised when I saw the tip screen for the first time end of the meal in restaurant. Minimum was 20%. Even though I didn’t feel like I got any good services from the restaurant crew but I couldn’t help but paying the tip.
    And then, I knew that only wage that employees get from employers isn’t sufficient on there living in America.
    I can’t say that employers in Korea pay enough wage to their employee but current tip in the US looks employers are transferring their duty on paying proper wage to customer.

    1. @adlata I’m afraid but you seem that you are on the out of rail for the discussion. I didn’t know even that issue. Please go to related video and write a reply.

  9. I hate how they try to slip it in automatically in the new apps. Sometimes they don’t even have a no tip option. I’m sorry but if I’m picking up my food, I don’t feel the need to tip. Delivery, wait service etc. Of course. Pickup…nah. my local gamestop tries to guilt into tipping…wth

  10. I had a waitress chased me down in the parking lot of a buffet restaurant asking me did I leave a tip…. Here’s the kicker, she has in her hand the $5 tip I left on the table!!! It’s her f-up way of saying $5 is not enough of a tip for her highness….. 😒

  11. We in New Zealand do not tip !!!!
    We pay our folk enough.
    Tipping is the ” thin edge of the wedge” in corruption.
    There is zero corruption in New Zealand.

  12. I don’t think most people minded tipping when tipping amounts were reasonable & given as a customer extended courtesy to say thank you for your good service…. but now it has become an implied obligation & the customer is viewed as a real jerk for anything less than 20% …. or nothing for poor service.

  13. If I came in expecting a tip for everything I did for people while on the job, I wouldn’t have a job

  14. I’ve been on both sides of the jar. It seems employers don’t pay hourly employees properly and everyone knows it. Actual service people expect a 20+% gratuity. The jars usually have to do with pre-tipping for food service- they will prepare and/or deliver accordingly and they believe anyone who wouldn’t do those things for themselves is financially comfortable. Unfortunately people who don’t have cars, disabled and some internet savvy seniors need the service. A pandemic shopping convenience that should either go away or let’s continue making more cometary commercial real estate. 6:59

  15. Tipping culture is frustrating.

    This happened to me in 2020 during my senior year. It was my friends birthday, so I decided to invite him to a restaurant to eat a meal. So we chose a place and then went to the restaurant ( I’m considering naming) and we bought two burgers 🍔 and 2 cokes. When I went to pay the lady, she literally charged me $25 of tip. I was very disappointed and never went back.

    I was really struggling. I did not have so much money. My parents did not give me much money. I remember that week clearly, i didn’t eat dinner never, because there was no money. Most of the time I ate only yogurts in the morning. So, I know struggles, i never lost faith.

    BTW happened in Fort Lauderdale

  16. I think tipping should be forbidden because:
    1 – It’s an excuse for employers to pay low wages to workers.
    2 – It’s stressful for workers when they depend in large amount on the tips to be able to pay their monthly bills, because of the uncertainty.
    3 – It’s the employer’s responsibility to pay the workers, to pay them fairly and to evaluate their performance. Customers should have no obligation whatsoever in managing the business they’re buying a product or service from.
    4 – It’s arbitrary in most countries, which makes it stressful for the workers and uncomfortable for the customers, especially when we know the workers are underpaid.
    5 – It’s sometimes used as a form of “bribery”. Rich clients use big tips to get better service and before other clients that arrived first.
    6 – It’s sometimes used as a “tourist trap”. Only after you finish your meal you find out that tipping is mandatory and part of the bill, and how much it is. In this case, as a consumer, you don’t have the right to know ahead how much a product or service costs and you can be charged differently from other customers.

    Tipping in the US is out of control, another sign of the extreme capitalism level. Businesses first, workers, clients, consumers, human beings last.

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